Wondering how everyone here feels about enjoying/owning onaholes and if you feel there's a stigma attached. If so, do you care?, How did you overcome it?
It feels like it's almost accpeted/standard for women to have dildos and vibrators. It might still make the prudish blush but for the most part they've been around longer and more seen/used/joked whatever in mainstream media for so long I feel like there's a basic shrug if one finds one in a girl's drawer.
Onaholes and male sex toys I feel have been around less long or less shown in mainstream media. TBH I can't think of a movie that has done a gag or shown an onahole or even a Fleshlight. A few have covered the full sized Love Dolls (Like Lars and the Real girl or the love doll gag in Good Boys) but usually the owners IMHO are portrayed in an unflattering light.
As such I feel like there's a two pronged stigma attached to any guy having one or using one. 1) Simply that a guy is more sexually deviant or perverted. It's one thing to enjoy porn - even highly fetished porn with your hand but to go the extra step of having an onahole/hip/tits/torso etc paints a picture of a possible pervert. 2) That a guy would have to resort to pleasing himself with basically an artificial vagina (or mouth or anus) let alone an artifical woman or woman's torso paints a picture of a 'sad' guy who can't get a real woman so he must settle on these toys.
I think both are kinda BS. If women's sex toys can be generally accepted then so should men's. Practically every human being has a desire for sexual release. It's baked into our DNA and it's almost right up there with hunger, thirst and sleep. And yes sex with a real woman (or man if that's your thing) is fantastic and (usually) can't be beat but you can get damn close with some of these toys/dolls and have different types of fun with some of them that you sometimes can't with a real partner. And I don't care if you have a GF, Spouse, or are the suavest James Bondian guy on earth able to usually bed a lot of women in a given month - there's *always* going to be times when a partner simply isn't around/available/ or sick whatever. And there's going to be times that taking care of your own business solo is simply more convenient. Might as well take that masturbation to the next level with an onahole.
But that's been my observation/views/experience. TBH a lot of guys and girls I've talked to about this often don't even seem aware onaholes even exist. So there's that too.
Am I off here? Am I overblowing this? What's been your experience personally or what you hear/see around you in media or from friends on Onahole stigma?
It feels like it's almost accpeted/standard for women to have dildos and vibrators. It might still make the prudish blush but for the most part they've been around longer and more seen/used/joked whatever in mainstream media for so long I feel like there's a basic shrug if one finds one in a girl's drawer.
Onaholes and male sex toys I feel have been around less long or less shown in mainstream media. TBH I can't think of a movie that has done a gag or shown an onahole or even a Fleshlight. A few have covered the full sized Love Dolls (Like Lars and the Real girl or the love doll gag in Good Boys) but usually the owners IMHO are portrayed in an unflattering light.
As such I feel like there's a two pronged stigma attached to any guy having one or using one. 1) Simply that a guy is more sexually deviant or perverted. It's one thing to enjoy porn - even highly fetished porn with your hand but to go the extra step of having an onahole/hip/tits/torso etc paints a picture of a possible pervert. 2) That a guy would have to resort to pleasing himself with basically an artificial vagina (or mouth or anus) let alone an artifical woman or woman's torso paints a picture of a 'sad' guy who can't get a real woman so he must settle on these toys.
I think both are kinda BS. If women's sex toys can be generally accepted then so should men's. Practically every human being has a desire for sexual release. It's baked into our DNA and it's almost right up there with hunger, thirst and sleep. And yes sex with a real woman (or man if that's your thing) is fantastic and (usually) can't be beat but you can get damn close with some of these toys/dolls and have different types of fun with some of them that you sometimes can't with a real partner. And I don't care if you have a GF, Spouse, or are the suavest James Bondian guy on earth able to usually bed a lot of women in a given month - there's *always* going to be times when a partner simply isn't around/available/ or sick whatever. And there's going to be times that taking care of your own business solo is simply more convenient. Might as well take that masturbation to the next level with an onahole.
But that's been my observation/views/experience. TBH a lot of guys and girls I've talked to about this often don't even seem aware onaholes even exist. So there's that too.
Am I off here? Am I overblowing this? What's been your experience personally or what you hear/see around you in media or from friends on Onahole stigma?
FappyEnding ( 169 )
@Greenwood95 I think it has to do with the toxic masculinity We have been taught thru our upbringing and media.
You are completely right in that we always feel like guys shouldn’t need to masturbate, you need to “score” with girls or you are pathetic/sad. I mean even though I see the problem in that, I would still joke with my friends about how his girlfriend is his right hand, but if a girl’s boyfriend is a cucumber, it’s hotttt!
I recently bought my first onahole and I am mad that I didn’t do it sooner, all those times wasted on my hand when I could have been having much more fun and pleasure.
I also think it comes with age, i cared a lot about what ppl and others think in hs. But then college less so as you see more diverse group of ppl. Now I don’t give a damn, I enjoy myself and they can laugh or think whatever they want.
You are completely right in that we always feel like guys shouldn’t need to masturbate, you need to “score” with girls or you are pathetic/sad. I mean even though I see the problem in that, I would still joke with my friends about how his girlfriend is his right hand, but if a girl’s boyfriend is a cucumber, it’s hotttt!
I recently bought my first onahole and I am mad that I didn’t do it sooner, all those times wasted on my hand when I could have been having much more fun and pleasure.
I also think it comes with age, i cared a lot about what ppl and others think in hs. But then college less so as you see more diverse group of ppl. Now I don’t give a damn, I enjoy myself and they can laugh or think whatever they want.
SluttyVisionQuest ( 1 )
@Greenwood95
Very well said. It's an outdated stigma, for sure, but one that still exists in some peoples' minds. Personally, I sing the praises of onaholes and often use it as an opportunity to educate. I've heard people make comments about "disembodied vaginas", and go on to say how objectifying that concept is. To which I point out that dildoes are disembodied penises, and no one has a problem with that... We all like genitals in one configuration or another, so let's just be equitable and not enact double standards.
I did, however, recently see a male sex toy reference in a TV show: Good Girls (with Christina Hendricks - goddamn!). One of the female characters confronted an old woman accused of harboring a male fugitive in her home. As proof, the character found her credit card statement and said "Oh yeah, then who bought this Fleshlight?!". "A flashlight?," the old lady responded. "FLESH! FLESHlight!!" screamed the woman. ;)
Very well said. It's an outdated stigma, for sure, but one that still exists in some peoples' minds. Personally, I sing the praises of onaholes and often use it as an opportunity to educate. I've heard people make comments about "disembodied vaginas", and go on to say how objectifying that concept is. To which I point out that dildoes are disembodied penises, and no one has a problem with that... We all like genitals in one configuration or another, so let's just be equitable and not enact double standards.
I did, however, recently see a male sex toy reference in a TV show: Good Girls (with Christina Hendricks - goddamn!). One of the female characters confronted an old woman accused of harboring a male fugitive in her home. As proof, the character found her credit card statement and said "Oh yeah, then who bought this Fleshlight?!". "A flashlight?," the old lady responded. "FLESH! FLESHlight!!" screamed the woman. ;)
wanderingmidget ( 272 )
@Greenwood95
There is a stigma, but I don't care. As I'm getting older, I'm starting to care less and less of what people think of me and what I partake in. As long as it's not to the (physical) detriment to others, I will continue to do things that I find enjoyment in. All that matters is how I feel about it.
If women can shove these giant plastic phallic objects into their holes and not be judged for it, then what's the issue with men sticking their winners into plastic holes?
There is a stigma, but I don't care. As I'm getting older, I'm starting to care less and less of what people think of me and what I partake in. As long as it's not to the (physical) detriment to others, I will continue to do things that I find enjoyment in. All that matters is how I feel about it.
If women can shove these giant plastic phallic objects into their holes and not be judged for it, then what's the issue with men sticking their winners into plastic holes?